Pre-call preparation
Read this before we speak.
A bit of context before the call so we can both make the most of the 45 minutes.
From Tomas
Hey brother
Just wanted to send you a bit of context prior to the call. I want to give you a sense of what this actually is and what it is not.
This is not a consultation. I am not going to spend an hour explaining things and sending you a follow-up PDF.
The call exists for one reason: so I can understand precisely where you are, what has been failing, and whether this program is the right fit for you. If it is, I will tell you plainly how it works and how we proceed. If it is not, I will tell you that too.
I have been working in this space for over three years through Fit for the Kingdom, and running this mentorship directly for over a year. In that time I have worked through almost every version of the same core problems. The inconsistency. The broken streaks. The discipline that starts strong and collapses by Wednesday. The purity battles. The prayer life that feels like it is going nowhere. The sense that you are built for more than the life you are currently living.
Most of what you are dealing with, I have either dealt with myself or walked another man through. The systems, the habit tracking, the accountability structures have all been built and refined around one question: what actually produces LASTING change in a man's life.
The whole thing is one-on-one. I will go through the details of your life with precision to find what is actually holding you back and build a structure that addresses it directly. I will be your brother beside you figuring this out.
But finally, the whole point of doing this is to stop hiding behind the "tomorrow." All I ask for is honesty about your situation.
See you on the call.
God bless
Tomas
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Section 1
What this call is
Most men who book a call like this have been meaning to book it for eight months.
They know the shape of the problem already. The 11pm scroll. The prayer that got dropped in March and never came back. The training block that lasted three weeks. The sense that they are running on capacity they built at nineteen and have not added to since.
You do not need me to tell you where you are. You need someone to hold you to a standard and stay there when it gets uncomfortable.
The call runs 45 minutes. Zoom. Camera on. I will ask you about your prayer, your training, your work, your sleep, your habits around lust, and the thing you have been avoiding. You will answer plainly or we will get nowhere.
At the end of the call I will tell you whether I can help you. Sometimes the answer is no.
Section 2
What I expect from you interiorly
The men who get results from this work arrive already convicted.
They have stopped negotiating with themselves about whether the standard is real. They have accepted that formation costs something and that the cost is paid daily, in the dark, before anyone sees it.
The men who waste this call arrive wanting to be persuaded. They want a system that will produce virtue without friction. They want the 5am wake-up without the 9pm bedtime. They want purity without the removal of the phone from the bedroom.
Come with the question already settled. You are going to change your life. What we are deciding on this call is the method and whether I am the man to walk it with you.
Aristotle wrote that we become just by doing just acts, brave by doing brave acts. Virtue is built through repeated action, not through arriving at the correct feeling first. You will act before you want to. That is the whole of it.
Section 3
What this actually costs
Time. Three to six months. Weekly calls. Daily execution logged and reviewed. If your week cannot hold four hours of training, thirty minutes of prayer, and one hour with me, we should not start.
Money. There is a fee. It is discussed on the call. Men who cannot invest in their own formation do not follow through on it either.
Comfort. Cold showers. Fasting Fridays. A rosary every day. Your phone out of your room. A confessor you see regularly. These are not optional extras I add later. They are the floor.
I train five days a week. I milk cows from 4:30am. I have a wife, children, and a theology degree running in the background. I am not asking you for anything I am not doing.
Section 4
Who I turn away
Men looking for motivation. Men who want to discuss the problem rather than remove it. Men who have already decided that their circumstances make the standard impossible. Men in genuine crisis who need a priest and a doctor before they need a mentor.
I work with a small number of men at a time. The screening is real.
Section 5
Do this before the call
Write your answers out. Bring the page.
- 1What does your last seven days look like, hour by hour, on the two worst days.
- 2What is the sin you would be most reluctant to name out loud on this call.
- 3What will your life look like in three years if nothing changes. Be specific. Name the weight, the job, the state of your soul.
- 4What have you already tried, and what week did it collapse.
Men who arrive with these written get twice as much from the 45 minutes.
Section 6
Logistics
Zoom link in your confirmation email. Join two minutes early. Somewhere quiet, alone, with a pen.
If you cannot make it, reschedule using the link at least 12 hours out. Men who no-show do not get a second booking.