For Catholic and Christian Men, Worldwide
If you are a Catholic or Christian man who knows exactly who you are called to be, and still cannot close the gap, this is the most important page you will read this year. Read every word.
A six-month 1:1 mentorship for men ready to close the gap between who they are and who they're called to be: disciplined in prayer, values aligned with their decisions, strong and energetic in body. No more downward spirals or white-knuckling it alone.
30 minutes. No pressure. No pitch.
The Guide
I know the drift. The shame loop. The discipline that looks like discipline but is only willpower applied to the wrong things.
My name is Tomas Mones-Cazon. I have been building this system for over three years and running 1:1 mentorship for over a year. Married at 23, with our first son now. Theology degree. 210-kilogram deadlift. 20 kilograms gained in a year. An interior life built in real conditions: farm work, young child, a full schedule, extra commitments. Not a monk or influencer with infinite time.
I am not the hero of this story. You are. I am the man who went before you and came back to show you the road.
But it wasn't always like this.
Before
After
I had read the right books. I prayed, five minutes of going through the motions, and concluded prayer was not for me. I looked, from the outside, like a man trying.
But after work, on a random weeknight, when the structure collapsed and there was nothing but restlessness, I found out exactly who I was. No spiritual father. No blueprint. No man ahead of me on the road. I had no intention behind the majority of my actions.
Then I found them. A priest. A group of men who were faithful, fit, and convicted. I was inspired because I now had concrete examples of what virtue looked like.
Over the following five years, it all compounded. I married at 23. I built to a 210-kilogram deadlift. I gained 20 kilograms of muscle. More importantly: I built an interior life that held under real pressure. I stopped managing temptation and started becoming a man who did not need to manage it, because the identity underneath had changed. I grew in virtue and in the interior life.
Now I help Christian men do the same. In 6 months. With a system, with accountability, and with a guide who remembers exactly what it feels like to be where they are.
The Villain
The enemy is not your weakness. It is isolation, combined with a world engineered to keep you exactly where you are.
The external problem: You are trying to build discipline, purity, and spiritual depth in an environment designed to destroy all three. The people around you are not calling you higher. Not because they do not care. Because nobody showed them how.
The internal problem: The drift. The habitual sin. The quiet failure of another week that looked busy and achieved nothing that mattered. Warmth in your friendships, but no direction, and in the absence of direction, it pulls you down.
The philosophical injustice: You were made for more than this. Nobody named that calling for you. Nobody spiritually fathered you. That is not your fault. It is your responsibility.
They are not weak. They are isolated. Isolation is the mechanism the enemy uses. Brotherhood is the mechanism God designed.
The Cost
Let me show you what the next 12 months look like if you go back to what you have been doing.
The drowning of the noise in seeking comfort of the world again because the underlying identity has not changed, only the surface behaviour. Sunday morning. Same pew. The gap between who you are and who you are supposed to be is sitting in your chest like a weight. The same weight it was last year. The year before.
"You are scrabbling like a man in a well trying to find a handhold."
Journaling in the morning. Going to the gym. Reading the right things. Doing all of it with no proof it is going to matter. The mechanism is the same, just cleaner noise filling the same gaps.
Your wife sees a man who is trying. She loves him. She does not yet fully trust him with the weight of the decisions that actually matter. Because he has not proved himself to himself, and she can feel that.
The man your sons will model themselves on is being built right now. Not by your intentions. By your choices today, at 7pm on a Tuesday when nobody is watching.
What this looks like
Example 1 — Tyrone (Video testimonial)
Example 2 — Alex (Video testimonial)
Example 3 — Asher (Video testimonial)
The Mechanism
You have tried the discipline. The prayer. The gym. The podcasts. And you are largely the same man. Here is why. Every one of those approaches attacks the symptom. The root is threefold, and no single-track programme touches all three.
Body and soul are not separate problems. The man who trains without praying and the man who prays without training both plateau. The saints did not separate the fight.
You are relying on willpower. Willpower runs out. Every time. The man who transforms is not the man with the most willpower. He is the man with a system that does not require it.
You are building a spiritual life with no blueprint and no one watching. The tradition is explicit: find the man slightly ahead of you on the road. He does not have to be a saint. He has to remember what this felt like.
This is why I built The Forged System. Not a workout with a devotional bolted on. A single integrated system that attacks all three roots simultaneously: body, soul, and brotherhood, across 6 months.
The Vision
It is a Sunday morning. You have already prayed. You were up before 6.
Not because an alarm forced you. Because the morning is yours now and you do not want to give it away.
Your posture is different. You stand taller. You are confident. Convicted. You have integrity with yourself. You said you would do something and you did. You said you would be someone, and you are.
Your friends notice. Your spouse, if you have one, notices. Your parents notice.
Your wife notices. She says less and trusts more. She feels the weight of decisions being carried differently.
"He knows what he is for. He gets up and he does it."
This is not a vision for someone else. This is the man you already know you are supposed to be. Six months from now.
Social Proof
Tyrone
"Lost six kilos over the month. I can't sleep past 6:30 now, otherwise I feel like I've lost the whole day. I've built a habit of prayer and I feel like my prayer has gotten better. Growth all around."
Blake
"I've never done a spiritual and physical challenge. Not many people see that at all. I've been trying to find a plan to actually fit both prayer and going to the gym."
Tyrone
"At the start I struggled with getting up early and with the cold showers. But honestly, it only took about three days for getting up early to become a habit. Now I get up between five and six. It's basically become a habit."
Blake
"Something like this program really enticed me because not only was it a physical challenge of training and becoming a better person, but there was also that integration of the spiritual as well — which I noticed had been lacking in my own training. Connecting the two really helps me not only develop physically but also spiritually."
Tyrone
"The prayer and spiritual reading has helped a lot. I like to meditate and just shut my eyes while I pray, and do a bit of breath work as I do it. I've built a habit of it, and I feel like my prayer has gotten better."
Blake
"The most helpful thing was the boys that were in it — especially having that group chat and those accountability times, checking in each day. There were some days I couldn't be asked getting up in the morning, couldn't be asked having a cold shower, but the fact that I had that accountability — in the morning I had to message the guys, 'this is the time I woke up, this is what I'm doing for the day.'"
Tyrone
"I've been way more productive because I've had way more time in the day. Lost six kilos over the month. Growth all around, to be honest. It's really changed me a lot. So thank you very much."
Blake
"Tom, your talks were phenomenal, and speaking to you privately about some issues as well. That mentorship and guidance at that point in my life was fantastic. I don't think you get that in many places, but you guys seem to have nailed it. For a long time I was separating the two. But now it's actually really praying as I'm training as well."
Mattias
"I was in that comfortable mindset, I don't really need this. I prayed on it, put it off. But what really came to it was just being a man and making that decision."
Caleb
"I definitely feel like I'm building more discipline... and like, I guess becoming a little bit more of a man in that like, yeah, I'm doing all these cold showers. Even today, I was like, man, I really don't want to get a cold shower. But I was like, well, who am I? Am I somebody who just does whatever I want? Or am I gonna take my flesh into captivity to obey Christ?"
Mattias
"The physical and spiritual integration, I don't think you get that in many places. The mentorship and the guidance at that point in my life was fantastic."
Matt
"I think I'm coming to realise it's really about getting up and really crucifying the flesh in the morning. That's why I've made such a habit of going to the gym, pumping it out, and the cold showers. Your flesh hurts for a bit, but you feel on top of the world after, and it's helped so much with the lust. I think it's just the consistency and structure to it all. It's actually been really good for the first week."
Mattias
"I'd done my own penance programs. They'd end up with decently good results, but only just for the period, and then eventually I'd go back to square one. What I was missing was the brotherhood aspect — that person to really kick you up the bum when you're slacking. That level of accountability goes a long way."
Caleb
"I was on my phone a lot less in general... I went to the gym three days in the week... I am actually getting a lot more sleep getting off earlier. And it's not just a vague idea of what you want to do. It's — you've thought about it, wrote it down. This is exactly what I'm aiming for."
Mattias
"The rising tide lifts all boats. When I was with the peloton with 30 other riders today it was a breeze. When I got out and it was just me and my riding buddy, I was completely cooked. There's strength in numbers. And there's a higher chance you'll come across that one standout guy where you go, 'wow, I need to rise to that level.'"
Asher
"I'm really over the moon that I've done this two weeks in a row – like meal prep. It's so awesome. And I've actually low-key told a few people, as an overflow of how much I've enjoyed it. And I've got so much more time at lunchtimes. There's all these different parts of me working together right now – my willpower trying to nail this better life that we've both agreed on, that can be done by fixing habits. That's what I'm here for."
Mattias
"I felt freer, because I was able to pick and choose who I wanted to serve. I wasn't forced into serving my weak ego through doom-scrolling on social media. I was able to actively choose to serve God — and there's a mental freedom that comes with that."
Asher
"You've kept me accountable on things that matter that literally cause everything else to flow on and make me who I am. So would I have done the same amount of stuff without you? Probably not. I'd probably be turning things down, maybe less quality. I probably wouldn't have played rugby. No way."
Owen
"I felt like I definitely needed help with discernment and prayer, developing a prayer life, which is talked about so much in Catholic circles and homilies, videos online. But I really struggled to grow in that personal relationship with God. What I was struggling with is the consistency and the discipline associated in that. Now morning prayer is something that I really enjoy doing. Sometimes it's not for itself, but for the way that it sanctifies my day and orders my day towards God. And the accountability really helps with that, because the desire to do it can fade."
Asher
"The golden triangle would be fitness, sleep and then diet — and then obviously Christianity, kind of like the purpose, the reason for doing it. I've known it for a very long time. Have I sorted it? Knowledge is not enough. I genuinely have a respect for you that you'll practice what you preach."
Owen
"I've kind of struggled maintaining a routine, maintaining discipline. I also found that transition from school to uni difficult, because I never really needed it during school. I kind of realized that every day is reflective of how my life will be. I've adapted really well since waking up at that time, and it's just something I quite enjoy. I do pray so much better in the early morning. When I don't, it just has so many flow on negative effects in so many areas of my life."
Alex
"I've been able to finally put myself onto a path where I am guaranteed to get through this. If you're allowing all this time for the Lord and practicing all these disciplines, it's the whole compound thing. I'm pretty much just destined to keep on improving if I'm practicing just being in control. I can only see the fruits of it."
Owen
"I was really drawn to the YouTube videos specifically, talking about living out Catholic masculinity, which I think isn't explored that much by a lot of creators online. I wanted to work with him one on one to get some guidance on how to live that out day to day. I want to become a man of prayer, virtue, and discipline. I think prayer is so essential to making those bigger decisions, because ultimately if you're making big decisions without God in the picture, it's most likely going to go the wrong way."
Felice
"Your work with me has helped tremendously with priorities, and how they flow on to my daily schedule. The way my mindset has been framed as a result of working with you is amazing. As a result of working with you my hours before and after work have become much more productive — and it's helped me be more intentional with my time."
Tyrone
"Lost six kilos over the month. I can't sleep past 6:30 now, otherwise I feel like I've lost the whole day. I've built a habit of prayer and I feel like my prayer has gotten better. Growth all around."
Blake
"I've never done a spiritual and physical challenge. Not many people see that at all. I've been trying to find a plan to actually fit both prayer and going to the gym."
Tyrone
"At the start I struggled with getting up early and with the cold showers. But honestly, it only took about three days for getting up early to become a habit. Now I get up between five and six. It's basically become a habit."
Blake
"Something like this program really enticed me because not only was it a physical challenge of training and becoming a better person, but there was also that integration of the spiritual as well — which I noticed had been lacking in my own training. Connecting the two really helps me not only develop physically but also spiritually."
Tyrone
"The prayer and spiritual reading has helped a lot. I like to meditate and just shut my eyes while I pray, and do a bit of breath work as I do it. I've built a habit of it, and I feel like my prayer has gotten better."
Blake
"The most helpful thing was the boys that were in it — especially having that group chat and those accountability times, checking in each day. There were some days I couldn't be asked getting up in the morning, couldn't be asked having a cold shower, but the fact that I had that accountability — in the morning I had to message the guys, 'this is the time I woke up, this is what I'm doing for the day.'"
Tyrone
"I've been way more productive because I've had way more time in the day. Lost six kilos over the month. Growth all around, to be honest. It's really changed me a lot. So thank you very much."
Blake
"Tom, your talks were phenomenal, and speaking to you privately about some issues as well. That mentorship and guidance at that point in my life was fantastic. I don't think you get that in many places, but you guys seem to have nailed it. For a long time I was separating the two. But now it's actually really praying as I'm training as well."
Mattias
"I was in that comfortable mindset, I don't really need this. I prayed on it, put it off. But what really came to it was just being a man and making that decision."
Caleb
"I definitely feel like I'm building more discipline... and like, I guess becoming a little bit more of a man in that like, yeah, I'm doing all these cold showers. Even today, I was like, man, I really don't want to get a cold shower. But I was like, well, who am I? Am I somebody who just does whatever I want? Or am I gonna take my flesh into captivity to obey Christ?"
Mattias
"The physical and spiritual integration, I don't think you get that in many places. The mentorship and the guidance at that point in my life was fantastic."
Matt
"I think I'm coming to realise it's really about getting up and really crucifying the flesh in the morning. That's why I've made such a habit of going to the gym, pumping it out, and the cold showers. Your flesh hurts for a bit, but you feel on top of the world after, and it's helped so much with the lust. I think it's just the consistency and structure to it all. It's actually been really good for the first week."
Mattias
"I'd done my own penance programs. They'd end up with decently good results, but only just for the period, and then eventually I'd go back to square one. What I was missing was the brotherhood aspect — that person to really kick you up the bum when you're slacking. That level of accountability goes a long way."
Caleb
"I was on my phone a lot less in general... I went to the gym three days in the week... I am actually getting a lot more sleep getting off earlier. And it's not just a vague idea of what you want to do. It's — you've thought about it, wrote it down. This is exactly what I'm aiming for."
Mattias
"The rising tide lifts all boats. When I was with the peloton with 30 other riders today it was a breeze. When I got out and it was just me and my riding buddy, I was completely cooked. There's strength in numbers. And there's a higher chance you'll come across that one standout guy where you go, 'wow, I need to rise to that level.'"
Asher
"I'm really over the moon that I've done this two weeks in a row – like meal prep. It's so awesome. And I've actually low-key told a few people, as an overflow of how much I've enjoyed it. And I've got so much more time at lunchtimes. There's all these different parts of me working together right now – my willpower trying to nail this better life that we've both agreed on, that can be done by fixing habits. That's what I'm here for."
Mattias
"I felt freer, because I was able to pick and choose who I wanted to serve. I wasn't forced into serving my weak ego through doom-scrolling on social media. I was able to actively choose to serve God — and there's a mental freedom that comes with that."
Asher
"You've kept me accountable on things that matter that literally cause everything else to flow on and make me who I am. So would I have done the same amount of stuff without you? Probably not. I'd probably be turning things down, maybe less quality. I probably wouldn't have played rugby. No way."
Owen
"I felt like I definitely needed help with discernment and prayer, developing a prayer life, which is talked about so much in Catholic circles and homilies, videos online. But I really struggled to grow in that personal relationship with God. What I was struggling with is the consistency and the discipline associated in that. Now morning prayer is something that I really enjoy doing. Sometimes it's not for itself, but for the way that it sanctifies my day and orders my day towards God. And the accountability really helps with that, because the desire to do it can fade."
Asher
"The golden triangle would be fitness, sleep and then diet — and then obviously Christianity, kind of like the purpose, the reason for doing it. I've known it for a very long time. Have I sorted it? Knowledge is not enough. I genuinely have a respect for you that you'll practice what you preach."
Owen
"I've kind of struggled maintaining a routine, maintaining discipline. I also found that transition from school to uni difficult, because I never really needed it during school. I kind of realized that every day is reflective of how my life will be. I've adapted really well since waking up at that time, and it's just something I quite enjoy. I do pray so much better in the early morning. When I don't, it just has so many flow on negative effects in so many areas of my life."
Alex
"I've been able to finally put myself onto a path where I am guaranteed to get through this. If you're allowing all this time for the Lord and practicing all these disciplines, it's the whole compound thing. I'm pretty much just destined to keep on improving if I'm practicing just being in control. I can only see the fruits of it."
Owen
"I was really drawn to the YouTube videos specifically, talking about living out Catholic masculinity, which I think isn't explored that much by a lot of creators online. I wanted to work with him one on one to get some guidance on how to live that out day to day. I want to become a man of prayer, virtue, and discipline. I think prayer is so essential to making those bigger decisions, because ultimately if you're making big decisions without God in the picture, it's most likely going to go the wrong way."
Felice
"Your work with me has helped tremendously with priorities, and how they flow on to my daily schedule. The way my mindset has been framed as a result of working with you is amazing. As a result of working with you my hours before and after work have become much more productive — and it's helped me be more intentional with my time."
The Three Pillars
Forged Virtue Ltd | 6-month mentorship for Christian men.
PILLAR ONE · BODY
You train in bursts. Six good weeks, then something breaks the rhythm and you are starting again in January. You have never held it long enough to find out what your body is actually capable of.
Strong. Visibly. Energy that lasts past three in the afternoon. A body you are not managing or apologising for.
You will train in a way that survives a bad week, a sick child, a work trip. Fasting and nutritional discipline will become part of your rhythm, not a crash diet but a rule you keep. Not because you found more willpower. Because the standard was built around the life you actually have.
And the discipline will not stay in the gym. The man who has learned to push past his own resistance under a barbell — and who has learned to fast and eat with intention — has built a faculty of the will, and it will show up in his prayer, his work and his marriage.
PILLAR TWO · IDENTITY
You have written goals in a notebook and forgotten them by Friday. You pray when you remember. You have been circling the same confession for years and you have started to think it is a permanent verdict on you.
You will know what you are for. Not vaguely. Precisely enough to say it out loud.
You will pray daily, and it will hold on the worst day, not just the good one, because you will have a rule built for the worst day. You will go to Confession as a man using a weapon rather than a man reporting a failure. The sacraments will stop being obligations and start being the infrastructure they are.
Your worth will stop moving with your results. A man whose validation comes from faithfulness rather than from outcomes does not collapse when he misses a week. And the sin you have been circling will lose its grip. Not managed. Not white-knuckled.
True identity does not come from your output, your reputation, or your last good week. It comes from Jesus Christ and the sacraments. That identity becomes the animating motive for your entire life, and your goals will flow from your life of grace, from your spiritual life.
PILLAR THREE · BROTHERHOOD
You have mates. You watch the football, you go to the pub, it is warm and it is comfortable and nobody has ever asked you a hard question. There is no one in your life whose standard you are working to meet.
You will be known by men who are serious. Men who will say the difficult thing when the difficult thing is what you need, and who will hear you say you are struggling without flinching.
You will have men ahead of you on the road. Men who remember what this stage felt like. And you will become that man for someone behind you.
This is the part that outlasts everything. When the coaching ends, the brotherhood does not.
The Lock
Train without the identity work and you will build a body and stay the same man underneath. You have done that before.
Get the identity clear and train hard with no brotherhood, and it holds for six months. Then a hard season comes, nobody notices you have stopped, and you are back at the beginning.
Build the brotherhood without doing the work on who you are, and you will not last in the room. These men will ask you what you are for. You will need an answer.
The three are one thing. That is why we do not sell them separately.
The Plan
A short application, then a 30-minute call to establish where you are and whether this programme is right for you. If it is not, I will tell you.
Habit tracker built. Training programme loaded. Discord access live. First 1:1 call scheduled. From day one you are in a structured environment built around your actual life.
Six months of daily accountability, weekly formation, brotherhood, and integrated physical and spiritual discipline. The gap closes.
Complete 6 months of this programme, fill in your habit tracker daily, use your optional 1:1 sessions and daily accountability as needed, and do not experience measurable transformation in your physical discipline, spiritual life, and interior order, and I will continue working with you for three additional months of 1:1 coaching at zero cost.
I can offer this because in three-plus years of running this programme I have not seen a man who showed up fully and got nothing. The ones who do not change are the ones who do not show up. Those men do not qualify.
Your risk: zero, if you do the work.
Qualification
FAQ
Because every other programme left you relying on willpower once the accountability disappeared. The Forged System is a live environment of daily accountability across 6 months, not a 30-day sprint. Works even if you have failed a hundred times before, because failure built on willpower and failure inside the right structure are completely different experiments.
This was designed for men with real lives, not monks. The daily practice is 20 minutes. The weekly call is 30 minutes. The tracking is two minutes at the end of each day. You do not figure out what to do. You follow the system. Works even if your schedule is brutal.
"Okay" is the most dangerous place a man can be. The man who is bad enough to know he needs help, seeks it. The man who is "doing okay" stays in the continent phase for years, cleaner noise in the same gaps. The standard is not okay. The standard is the man your sons will model themselves on.
Every man I currently work with is in a different timezone. The 1:1 calls schedule around your availability. The messaging is asynchronous. Geography is not a barrier.
The call is 30 minutes. We establish where you are, what the root issues are, and whether this programme is the right fit. No pressure. No pitch.
The Close
You came to this page because the gap is real. You know who you are supposed to be. You know the distance between that man and you.
You have tried closing it alone. You have tried willpower, information, new starts. None of it touched the root. The root is the environment you are in, the accountability structure you have, and whether there is a man ahead of you on the road.
If you act now: you begin in the next 48 hours. Six months from now your prayer is real. Your physical discipline is built into your identity. You no longer seek comfort and validation from the world. The loop is broken.
If you delay: the gap sits in your chest at Sunday Mass again. Every day without a system and without accountability is a vote for the man you are currently becoming.
Every man I have worked with said he was not sure the timing was right. Every one of them told me later that the timing was never going to be right. You make it right.
Spots are limited per cohort. I will not take on more men than I can serve at the standard this work requires.
P.S. Six months from now, a version of you exists that wakes before the sun, prays with actual contact, and who walks with conviction and confidence because his interior life is settled. That man is not a fantasy. He is the result of a specific system, applied consistently, inside the right accountability structure. If you do not book the call today, his existence depends on you finding another path to him. You already know how well doing it alone has worked. Spots for this cohort are limited. The call takes 30 minutes. Book it now.
P.P.S. The man your future sons will model themselves on is being built by your choices today, not by your intentions about tomorrow.
Video Testimonials
Tyrone
6kg lost, waking before 6:30am, daily prayer established.
Alex
Finally on a path he is guaranteed to get through.
Asher
Habits, meal prep, and time reclaimed week after week.
Owen
Morning prayer became non-negotiable, phone use dropped, and the big calls now start with God.
Written Testimonials
Tyrone
"Lost six kilos over the month. I can't sleep past 6:30 now, otherwise I feel like I've lost the whole day. I've built a habit of prayer and I feel like my prayer has gotten better. Growth all around."
Blake
"I've never done a spiritual and physical challenge. Not many people see that at all. I've been trying to find a plan to actually fit both prayer and going to the gym."
Tyrone
"At the start I struggled with getting up early and with the cold showers. But honestly, it only took about three days for getting up early to become a habit. Now I get up between five and six. It's basically become a habit."
Blake
"Something like this program really enticed me because not only was it a physical challenge of training and becoming a better person, but there was also that integration of the spiritual as well — which I noticed had been lacking in my own training. Connecting the two really helps me not only develop physically but also spiritually."
Tyrone
"The prayer and spiritual reading has helped a lot. I like to meditate and just shut my eyes while I pray, and do a bit of breath work as I do it. I've built a habit of it, and I feel like my prayer has gotten better."
Blake
"The most helpful thing was the boys that were in it — especially having that group chat and those accountability times, checking in each day. There were some days I couldn't be asked getting up in the morning, couldn't be asked having a cold shower, but the fact that I had that accountability — in the morning I had to message the guys, 'this is the time I woke up, this is what I'm doing for the day.'"
Tyrone
"I've been way more productive because I've had way more time in the day. Lost six kilos over the month. Growth all around, to be honest. It's really changed me a lot. So thank you very much."
Blake
"Tom, your talks were phenomenal, and speaking to you privately about some issues as well. That mentorship and guidance at that point in my life was fantastic. I don't think you get that in many places, but you guys seem to have nailed it. For a long time I was separating the two. But now it's actually really praying as I'm training as well."
Mattias
"I was in that comfortable mindset, I don't really need this. I prayed on it, put it off. But what really came to it was just being a man and making that decision."
Caleb
"I definitely feel like I'm building more discipline... and like, I guess becoming a little bit more of a man in that like, yeah, I'm doing all these cold showers. Even today, I was like, man, I really don't want to get a cold shower. But I was like, well, who am I? Am I somebody who just does whatever I want? Or am I gonna take my flesh into captivity to obey Christ?"
Mattias
"The physical and spiritual integration, I don't think you get that in many places. The mentorship and the guidance at that point in my life was fantastic."
Matt
"I think I'm coming to realise it's really about getting up and really crucifying the flesh in the morning. That's why I've made such a habit of going to the gym, pumping it out, and the cold showers. Your flesh hurts for a bit, but you feel on top of the world after, and it's helped so much with the lust. I think it's just the consistency and structure to it all. It's actually been really good for the first week."
Mattias
"I'd done my own penance programs. They'd end up with decently good results, but only just for the period, and then eventually I'd go back to square one. What I was missing was the brotherhood aspect — that person to really kick you up the bum when you're slacking. That level of accountability goes a long way."
Caleb
"I was on my phone a lot less in general... I went to the gym three days in the week... I am actually getting a lot more sleep getting off earlier. And it's not just a vague idea of what you want to do. It's — you've thought about it, wrote it down. This is exactly what I'm aiming for."
Mattias
"The rising tide lifts all boats. When I was with the peloton with 30 other riders today it was a breeze. When I got out and it was just me and my riding buddy, I was completely cooked. There's strength in numbers. And there's a higher chance you'll come across that one standout guy where you go, 'wow, I need to rise to that level.'"
Asher
"I'm really over the moon that I've done this two weeks in a row – like meal prep. It's so awesome. And I've actually low-key told a few people, as an overflow of how much I've enjoyed it. And I've got so much more time at lunchtimes. There's all these different parts of me working together right now – my willpower trying to nail this better life that we've both agreed on, that can be done by fixing habits. That's what I'm here for."
Mattias
"I felt freer, because I was able to pick and choose who I wanted to serve. I wasn't forced into serving my weak ego through doom-scrolling on social media. I was able to actively choose to serve God — and there's a mental freedom that comes with that."
Asher
"You've kept me accountable on things that matter that literally cause everything else to flow on and make me who I am. So would I have done the same amount of stuff without you? Probably not. I'd probably be turning things down, maybe less quality. I probably wouldn't have played rugby. No way."
Owen
"I felt like I definitely needed help with discernment and prayer, developing a prayer life, which is talked about so much in Catholic circles and homilies, videos online. But I really struggled to grow in that personal relationship with God. What I was struggling with is the consistency and the discipline associated in that. Now morning prayer is something that I really enjoy doing. Sometimes it's not for itself, but for the way that it sanctifies my day and orders my day towards God. And the accountability really helps with that, because the desire to do it can fade."
Asher
"The golden triangle would be fitness, sleep and then diet — and then obviously Christianity, kind of like the purpose, the reason for doing it. I've known it for a very long time. Have I sorted it? Knowledge is not enough. I genuinely have a respect for you that you'll practice what you preach."
Owen
"I've kind of struggled maintaining a routine, maintaining discipline. I also found that transition from school to uni difficult, because I never really needed it during school. I kind of realized that every day is reflective of how my life will be. I've adapted really well since waking up at that time, and it's just something I quite enjoy. I do pray so much better in the early morning. When I don't, it just has so many flow on negative effects in so many areas of my life."
Alex
"I've been able to finally put myself onto a path where I am guaranteed to get through this. If you're allowing all this time for the Lord and practicing all these disciplines, it's the whole compound thing. I'm pretty much just destined to keep on improving if I'm practicing just being in control. I can only see the fruits of it."
Owen
"I was really drawn to the YouTube videos specifically, talking about living out Catholic masculinity, which I think isn't explored that much by a lot of creators online. I wanted to work with him one on one to get some guidance on how to live that out day to day. I want to become a man of prayer, virtue, and discipline. I think prayer is so essential to making those bigger decisions, because ultimately if you're making big decisions without God in the picture, it's most likely going to go the wrong way."
Felice
"Your work with me has helped tremendously with priorities, and how they flow on to my daily schedule. The way my mindset has been framed as a result of working with you is amazing. As a result of working with you my hours before and after work have become much more productive — and it's helped me be more intentional with my time."
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